"But i only speak the truth."
We often hear this apologetic statement after a conflict.
The truth is humans are imperfect. There are many bad truths in a person as no one is flawless. Even in the most seemingly-perfect persons like Dalai Lama or Jesus , critics can find bad truths.
The question is do we need to speak bad truths about others and provoke ill-feelings , hatred or quarrels?
Do the manner and intonation we speak the truth hurt others ? Do you speak the 'truth' in a ridicule or vengeful way?
Yes, we may only speak the truth - the bad truths. But others can also find bad truths in us. Yet they are gracious enough not to tell them to our faces.
"You are getting fatter and fatter"
"I don't think u are good looking"
"You talk alot but contributed nothing"
Sometimes some of these bad truths are just a matter of opinion or preferences.And they are not absolute truth either.
So think again before we are tempted to speak 'the truth'. Ask ourselves, would it be beneficial or would it just provoke a quarrel or ill-feelings ?
Our moms always say "If you have nothing good to say about others, just shut up."
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